By Oghovemu Daniel Okpu
6 LIES YOU SHOULD NOT ACCEPT IN A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU REALLY WANT TO ENJOY A FULFILLED MARRIAGE OR LIFE (PART 1)
Just before I take you fully into the post, let me mention this.
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Let’s now get on to the post.
6 Lies You Should Not Accept In A Relationship If You Really Want To Enjoy A Fulfilled Marriage Or Life
This post focuses on one of the things that rob young people of their promising great future. I call it a “bait with a hidden dead hook” and it has destroyed many young people who would have become great world changers. I value you, your generation (and even posterity) values you and above all, heaven values you. You can’t afford to miss God’s purpose like many have done. It will be more waste.
This post is a bit long so, don’t be in a hurry and skip it. Take your time to go through to the end and you won’t regret your time.
Now, what is this bait with a death hook in it? It’s simply the subject of premarital sex.
Pre-marital sex as you already know is sex before marriage.
As single youths or unmarried young people, we do not have the permission to taste the fruit of sex. Until we are married; it is a forbidden fruit. And like the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden, the fruit of premarital sex is attractive on the surface, but hidden in it is a death hook. No fisherman would catch a single fish without coating his fishing hook with a bait (that thing that attracts the fish to it). Premarital sex is a bait that Satan uses to draw young people to the hook that destroys the beautiful and bright future which God has prepared for them.
On the surface, premarital sex as well as other immoral sexual activities such as masturbation, appears to be good and tastes sweet; but hidden in it is shame, guilt and regret, sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, loss of self-respect, etc., which eventually lead to the total destruction of God’s beautiful plan for your life.
How has premarital sex become so attractive to young people that they find it hard to resist? It’s simply by some big lies the world say about it which young people believe to be true. And in this post, I’m sharing 6 of them with you.
6 Lies You Must Not Believe As A Young Person If You Must Fulfill Your Life Purpose
1) You Can Have A Safe Sex Using Condoms
Satan tells youth, “You can enjoy sex without any negative implication by using condoms.” It sounds good to hear, right? But this is a big lie. While condom may actually protect you from sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) or unwanted pregnancy, it cannot protect you from heartbreaks and the deadly spiritual implications of premarital sex. The pain of a relationship breakup is stronger when sex had been involved than when it was sex free. This is because, you now carry or share part of each other. Yes, beyond the physical bonding, sex joins you spiritually to the person you have it with. So when this person is leaving your life, it takes away part of you which makes the pain stronger. Condom cannot protect you from this together with other spiritual negative implications which I cannot share here now.
2) You Need Sex To Prove Your Love For Your Boy/Girlfriend
This is another big lie Satan tells you. See, sex is never a proof of love out of wedlock or outside marriage. It only plays this role within the walls of marriage. But outside marriage, it is a proof of hatred. Yes, it is; because no man/woman who truly loves you will want to ruin your life to satisfy his/her selfish desire. If the man or woman you are in a relationship with truly loves you, he/she will fight to suppress his/her sexual urge and wait till the right time, which is after getting married to him or her. Have you been living with this lie? Discuss this together with your partner in relationship and cease to live by it until you have done the necessary marriage rights or wedded. You need to do this to preserve actualize God’s plan for your life.
3) You Need To Have Sex To Know If He/She Is Compatible With You
Another big lie from Satan. Why would you believe that having sex in a relationship will help you know if he/she is compatible with you? Even if it carries a dot of truth in it, following it will ruin your marriage tomorrow if it happens that you do not finally marry this person. Did you just ask me how? This is how. Having slept sexually with multiple partners, you will want to compare your sexual experience with your husband/wife to the sexual experiences you had with other men/women in the past. And this can negatively affect the marriage if you cannot be satisfied with your husband or wife. So, don’t live by this because it’s a worldly and destructive belief.
4) You Need To Have Sex To Keep Him/Her
This is another lie from the devil. Now, for example, assume that you have two same products, say wrist watches before you. While one is well wrapped and not opened, the other is exposed and looking like what has been used by others. You have the freedom to choose one of them. Which of them will you take? The well wrapped one of course. The truth is, the very day you give your body to a man/woman who is not your husband/wife, you automatically lose your true value before him/her. Especially if you are a lady, you become a cheap thing to the man and having satisfied himself, he is more likely to leave you to settle with the one who has refused to be used or abused.
5) You Can Have Sex Together Since You Will Eventually Get Married To Him/Her
This is not also true. It’s only a fallacy from the devil. Yes, agreed, you will get married, but now, have you done so? As a man, until you pay the bride price of your to-be wife, she is not yet your own. And as the to-be wife, until your to-be husband pays your bride-price, you do not belong to him yet, and you can only have access to each other’s body when you have fully belonged to each other. Simple!
6) Having Premarital Sex Does Not Matter. It’s What Everybody Is Doing
This is a lie too. Everybody is not doing it. And even if everybody is doing it, does that make it right for you? So if everybody is walking into fire, you will also do so? You need to be wiser than the devil. There are many young people like you out there who do not involve themselves in premarital sex or who were once guilty of it but have now fully submitted their bodies to the lordship of Jesus Christ. This is true and it proves that Satan who tells you that you can’t keep yourself as a young person until marriage is a liar. Surely, with self-discipline and determination, you can live a life of chastity.
I know it’s your desire to fulfill the happy better life God has planned for you. But you must bear in mind that you cannot eat your cake and have it at the same time.
I have shared an important truth. If you can ignore the devil’s lies and live by the truth I have just shared, you have better chance of actualizing the plans of God for your life. I encourage you to follow this truth and preserve your life.
I value you.
Become a happy better you, unleash your fullest potentials and live your best life.
Oghovemu Daniel Okpu
6 LIES YOU SHOULD NOT ACCEPT IN A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU REALLY WANT TO ENJOY A FULFILLED MARRIAGE OR LIFE